Thursday, September 18, 2008

    The greatest perl of wisdom for success

    This must be the philosophical cornerstone for any successful person:
    "Whether you believe you can do a thing or not, you're right. "
    Henry Ford
    This witty statement can cause confusion at the first read. How can you be right both ways? Of course, Ford tries to emphasize the importance of your beliefs about yourself with respect to your possibilities. He wants to show that above everything else, willpower and attitude is number one thing above everything else. He who believes in himself will act more confidently and with more determination.

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    Wednesday, September 10, 2008

    Ban emails out of your life!


    Now don't get me wrong, I love emails. But e-mails are just too comfortable. How can something be too comfortable? They are fast to write, to modify, to send, to read, to organize and free. This causes two problems:

    1- They are so comfortable that more and more communications are done over e-mail. This means that people communicate in situations that they previously wouldn't.

    2- They fact that they are so simple and easy makes them lose value. Something that can so easily be created and replicated does not have much value.



    Communications can get seriously affected by this. How many times have you sent an e-mail asking for some important information or to resolve an important issue, and you never got response?It happens mostly when you need something from someone, lets say a business, a public office, or your university. Read More...

    Monday, September 8, 2008

    Tips for great public speaking

    I really enjoyed these series on public speaking. It is not presented by some overconfident guy talking about how great he is at public speaking. These people are often too busy showing how good they are that they don't emphasize the main points. This woman really goes to the point, and makes it clear.

    Unfortunately I can not embed the videos

    Body language
    Eye contact

    Voice volume
    Breathing, smiling, and focusing
    Rate of speech
    Visualize success

    P.S: If you know where these videos come from, please let me know. I don't belive they are originally made for expert village.
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    Saturday, September 6, 2008

    The amazing greeting. It takes more than a smile.

    During my job in Germany, there was a man that I liked from the first moment. I knew him because every day he would come to my department, greet me, and go further. I found him to be sincere and charismatic, and my impression was that he actually really liked me. After some time I started questioning why I felt this way towards him, because I realized we would never say more than a sentence to each other. Why did I like him over other people that even try to start a small conversation with me every time? I started analyzing his behavior and his interactions. Then I figured out the thing that enchanted me (and other people) each time: he was just great at greeting people! Read More...

    Wednesday, September 3, 2008

    When to trust your intuition

    "Trust your intuition" is what we are often told. We just like intuition. We would like to hear that our intuitive feelings know the right answer for everything. It has something mysterious that makes it attractive. The truth is, sometimes your intuition is right, other times it's are wrong. But why? There is a lot of confusion about these feelings, as many people try to attribute to our intuition some kind of magic hocus pokus. Intuition is a product of your subconscious brain. Your subconsciousness registers much more inputs and in a different way than your consciousness. It will relate what you see, with what you hear, feel, smell and taste with what you do and what happened before and after. And all these impressions will again be related to previous experiences in life. So much happens in your brain! It will process the information, find patterns, learn from feedback and try to optimize the responses. For instance, nobody knows how they learned to walk, play tennis or ride a bike, you just learn it without knowing exactly how. When your conscious brain tries to make a decision, your subconsciousness will give his meaning through intuitive feelings or guts. Read More...

    Saturday, August 30, 2008

    Presenting excuses. Mistakes.

    I plan on writing about all the small stupid social mistakes I commit, to keep track of them and to learn from it.

    At this moment there is a birthday party going on to which I am not assisting. I was invited but I didn't know if I could go (most likely not) because it is in a different town and I would have to find somewhere to sleep and I still had to much work to do for my university.

    So I said: "No, most likely I'm not going because I have nowhere to sleep and I still have much work to do."

    Some days later i received a message: "At the end I found a place for you to sleep, are you coming?" Read More...

    Thursday, August 28, 2008

    Screw losers. Be a someone.

    We always hear we should act naturally. "Just be yourself" is what you probably have heard from your mother many times. If you are a guy and ask for advice on how to get the girl you want to one of your (girl) friends, they will say the same thing: "Oh, just show yourself the way you are". I call bullshit. This is the biggest mistake you can make.

    The fact is, you didn't decide who you are. During the part of your life that had the biggest influence on your character and your habits you were barely conscious (your childhood, not the times you were drunk). Why should you accept how the environment molded you into who you are? What is so worthwhile about all the imperfections in your character? What kind of self defeating loser attitude is that? If want feel proud about anything in life, shouldn't you start by yourself?

    Transform into who you want to be. Behave as you want to behave. Listen to all, but subordinate to nobody as they tell you how you should be.

    Push your limits. Push your comfort zone. Burn your fears. Behave as the individual you want to be, and you will eventually become that individual. That is the only worthy attitude.

    We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.

    Aristotle